When Love and the Algorithm Don't Mix

When I met my husband, who happens to be white, he told me that he was always seeing women with blonde hair on Tinder and he's not really into blondes. No matter how many times he had swiped left on blondes, the algorithms were always recommending them to him, presumably because pop culture dictates that white men prefer blondes. Luckily for us, the algorithms' tendency to stack blonde women in his swipe deck worked out in our favor because I'm a black woman who, at the time, had blonde hair. In nearly 10 years of swiping through profiles on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and OkCupid, I learned that dating apps can provide pathways for finding friendship, adventure, romance, and sometimes, love. But there was one aspect of dating app culture that I couldn't ignore because it was often the first thing matches wanted to talk about: race.