I Don't Think My Hookups Need to Know About My Open Relationship

This is part of Help! Wanted, a special series from Slate advice. In the advising biz, there are certain eternal dilemmas that bedevil letter writers and columnists alike. For this edition, we asked writer Sable Yong to field your questions about online dating. She writes the newsletter Hard Feelings and her first essay collection Die Hot With A Vengeance will be published by Harper Collins in 2024. Matched is a pop-up advice column about online dating. Have a question about navigating dating apps? Can you make a ruling once and for all: If I'm on an app like Tinder or Grindr, and it clearly states I am there for "short-term fun" or "right now," do I really need to also talk about being in an open relationship with potential partners?