Mere moments after his swearing in Monday, President Donald Trump made a proclamation to attendees of his inauguration: "It shall henceforth be the policy of the United States government that there are only two genders: male and female." Trump then signed an executive order disparaging what the White House called "gender ideology" and claiming that a person's sex is "not changeable and [is] grounded in fundamental and incontrovertible reality." Trump's order, which was widely seen as an unscientific attempt to roll back the rights of transgender and gender-expansive people, also instructs federal agencies "to require that government-issued identification documents, including passports, visas, and Global Entry cards, accurately reflect the holder's sex," rather than their gender identity. It was one of 78 orders signed on Monday, some of which were part of Trump's attempts to end Biden-era policies that "socially engineer race and gender into every aspect of public and private life." While the executive order only affects federal policy, the broader implications are vast.

Of all things about dating that people got wrong in 2024, one remains the standout: that old people don't have a lot of sex. On several dating platforms, boomers (individuals aged 59 to 72) were actually the fastest growing userbase. Aging singles were also having the most orgasmic sex of their lives, according to data from Match.com, Since 2022, the kink-positive app Feeld has experienced a 340 percent surge in users who are 60-plus. "Feeld has definitely introduced me to new desires and made me 100 percent more aware of my body and what I enjoy," Wendy, 72, said when we spoke in April.

A lover of magazines may find a few good reasons to pay attention to AFM, a new publication about sex and relationships. It's also the latest in a long line of magazines to exist only because of the largesse of a tech company. AFM stands for both "A Fucking Magazine" and "A Feeld Magazine"--that second one a reference to the dating app that is funding the enterprise. Feeld started its life in 2014 specifically to facilitate threesomes. It was originally called 3nder, pronounced "Thrinder," which quickly led the company to receive a trademark-infringement complaint from Tinder.

A dating app aimed at alternative relationships nearly doubled its revenues last year as non-monogamous, queer and kinky users helped the UK-based business expand its reach across the world. Feeld, founded by an entrepreneur couple in an open relationship, has said it is "on a mission to elevate the human experience of sexuality and relationships" from its registered office on an industrial estate in Carlisle, Cumbria. Growth in the app's popularity in recent years, amid surging interest in non-traditional relationship structures such as polyamory, meant that last year was the first for which Feeld was large enough to file full accounts at Companies House. They show that the company's profits increased from 2.4m to 5.5m in the year to the end of 2023, on the back of revenues that rose from 20.7m to 39.5m. The majority of that income is now derived from outside the UK, with 33m of turnover coming from overseas.

Eury Jones was 58 the first time she pegged a man. She was coming out of a long-term relationship and entering a new life chapter. "I did a bit of Googling about threesomes and chanced upon Feeld," she says of the dating app for free-spirited relationship structures. But Jones, who lives in London and has a generous smile, wasn't accustomed to the circus of online dating: maneuvering fake profiles, encountering people who only want to swap photos and never meet. Gradually, she says, "I knew not to entertain that nonsense." Then she met him--a cyclist in a Che Guevara T-shirt.

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Jessica and Rich here. I'm (35F) very interested in having a threesome and have been working the apps to try to find the right person to help make this happen. I've had a few bites. I was sexting with one guy for days on end about our joint fantasy of making this happen, and I found a second guy, who said he'd like to join us.

When Aaron* logged on to the kinky, nonmonogamy-focused dating app Feeld on Thursday to finalize plans with a match, the interface wouldn't load. As a middle-aged man in an ethically nonmonogamous relationship, Aaron considers Feeld a great way to meet other like-minded people in his area--and that's exactly what he was hoping to do this past Friday. Someone he had a connection with was in town for one night only, and he wanted to take advantage. He tried logging in again and changing his Wi-Fi connection, but nothing seemed to do the trick. Flummoxed, he took to X, the platform formerly known as Twitter, to see if there was any explanation.

Feeld Notes is a column about a middle-aged woman who suddenly realizes she wants to have sex again--and the beguiling app she uses to do it. I know that women aren't supposed to like dick pics. Themselves? (Guys my age never seem to send them.) I'm know I'm supposed to get upset about them. Take them as an affront.

Feeld Notes is a column about a middle-aged woman who suddenly realizes she wants to have sex again--and the beguiling app she uses to do it. Not to imply I get liked by a lot of men--ha!--but of the men who do like my profile, a significant percentage of them are substantially younger than I am. Listen, I'm not a cougar, an appellation that, by definition, suggests a certain predatory instinct. As I've explained previously, I don't have it in me. But I'd be lying if I said that that some part of me isn't delighted to think that the pictures and the words on my profile project a sort of youthful exuberance.

Feeld Notes is a column about a middle-aged woman who suddenly realizes she wants to have sex again--and the beguiling app she uses to do it. Men are disappearing on me all the time on this fucking app. Within the first six weeks of my time on Feeld, I'd had some fun, but I'd also been flaked on or ghosted no fewer than six times. There was one guy, Mike, a short, brown-haired, 33-year-old writer who described himself as a "dom" and promised to show me the ropes around domination and submission. I spent a few steamy nights chatting with him on WhatsApp, then made a plan to meet up with him on a Friday night.