I'm Dying to Have a Threesome With Two Men. Why Does Every Attempt Fall Apart in the Same Way?

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Jessica and Rich here. I'm (35F) very interested in having a threesome and have been working the apps to try to find the right person to help make this happen. I've had a few bites. I was sexting with one guy for days on end about our joint fantasy of making this happen, and I found a second guy, who said he'd like to join us.