My Middle-Aged Foray Into the "Adult" Hook-Up App Taught Me a Lesson About Men Now

Feeld Notes is a column about a middle-aged woman who suddenly realizes she wants to have sex again--and the beguiling app she uses to do it. Men are disappearing on me all the time on this fucking app. Within the first six weeks of my time on Feeld, I'd had some fun, but I'd also been flaked on or ghosted no fewer than six times. There was one guy, Mike, a short, brown-haired, 33-year-old writer who described himself as a "dom" and promised to show me the ropes around domination and submission. I spent a few steamy nights chatting with him on WhatsApp, then made a plan to meet up with him on a Friday night.