I Think My Boyfriend and I Are Breaking a Very Important Rule of Sex With Strangers

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Stoya and Rich here. My partner and I (man and woman in our mid-30s) want to open profiles on an adult dating site (Feeld, probably?) to connect with couples and singles. We've had ethically non-monogamous encounters at adult resorts, but haven't tried a dating site to meet people closer to home in hopes of landing on more "social swinging" relationships. There are a wealth of swinging/lifestyle podcasts with episodes about dating profiles, and omitting your face from "public" photos on the site (that is, visible to all members) is uniform advice. Of course, most often this is to avoid being identified on the site.