When I Took My Date's Pants Off, I Was in for a Shock. I'm Not Sure Where to Go From Here.

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Jessica and Rich here. I recently started casually online dating after leaving an abusive marriage, and it's been going great! There have been lots of nice guys, and we have had some sexy fun. That said, I've run into a weird situation that I'm almost certainly overthinking but am baffled by.