I'm In a Perfect Relationship. But I Can't Stop Sabotaging It.

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Stoya and Rich here. I'm in a long-term relationship that's been satisfying emotionally, mentally, and sexually. We explore and try new things, I feel cared for and loved. The problem is this new hobby I've developed that I haven't shared and can't seem to stop.