I'm in an Exciting New Open Marriage. No One Told Me What It's Like to Date Now.

How to Do It is Slate's sex advice column. Send it to Stoya and Rich here. My wife and I (both women) are now in an open marriage … at least in theory. The problem isn't our comfort levels--we love each other deeply, are both comfortable with the idea that we can venture out but that we'll always come back to each other, and generally have pretty good communication. The problem is how to find someone else who's interested.