The amount of conflicting advice there is on how to bring up happy and successful children can make your head spin. Parents often find themselves questioning how strict they should be with youngsters and how much independence they should allow them. Now a new book by psychologists says our approach is wrong – because we're training them to be computers, reports NPR. Instead of focusing on'success' at school, we should be teaching them how to be better at being social, navigate relationships and be good citizens in a community. That's according to two professors who have written Becoming Brilliant: What Science Tells Us About Raising Successful Children.