When Payal met Kanchan, back in 2017, she had no idea she would fall in love with her fellow trainee. That year, India's Supreme Court had ruled that gay sex was no longer a criminal offence, overturning a previous judgement that upheld a colonial-era law. But age-old customs and regressive attitudes survived, making it difficult for same-sex relationships to be accepted by larger society.
Danny Lavery welcomes Kyle Turner, a queer freelance writer based in Brooklyn, N.Y. Turner is a contributor to Paste Magazine, and his writing on film and culture has been featured in the Village Voice, GQ, Slate, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times. Lavery and Turner tackle two letters. First, from someone who's not sure if they should identify as a lesbian given their history. Another letter writer is wondering how to support a close friend who is moving far, and also not get in her way.
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